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Duffy on the Lighter Side of Life

Welcome to this website, a memory of Daniel Duffy. This page is perhaps about the heart of Dan. He loved to enjoy life and enjoyed life by loving it. This page reflects the lighter side of Duffy, now on the Lighter Side of Life.

The pictures on the front page of this site were taken by me at the Maine State Spiritualist Association of Churches 2000 Convention in Bangor Maine USA. Dan Duffy was the Guest Speaker. Duffy was in great form and humor as usual. He inspired everyone there. These shots were taken at the Sunday Memorial Service. How appropriate they are for this web site. I place this website into cyber space, as a memoriam to my dear friend, now in Spirit.

Also on this site are Poems written by Dan and some TUNES with his vibration all over them for you to check out (the extra download time is worth it). Other pictures on the site were submitted by friends. Don't forget to Email Duffy while you're here  and sign his Guest Book (be sure to leave your email address in the guest book.) It's always FUN to do things with Duffy.

Dan and I loved and respected each other, a bond he held with many. I am releasing this site for the anniversary of the MSSAC convention because Dan was all Spiritualist. He lived and breathed Spiritualism. Before his passing, he had been serving churches and camps in New England almost every week. For a few years of his life he served Spirit in parts of Europe. He was a wonderful example of a free Spirit. One couldn't help but to "free up" when around him. He stands behind my shoulder now and breaths humor into my Spirit. Please enjoy our site.

Below are emails I received from some of Duffy's friends. With their permission, I also place them here in this time capsule, for all to know him. If any one wishes to add words or pictures, email me. Webmaster

Hello,

My name is Toni, I don't know many of you, and likewise many of you don't
know me either.  We've all lost the physical presence of a wonderful,
spiritual man.  The here after is very fortunate to have him.  I know Duff's
spirit is with us all and that comforts me...
I was walking out of my AA meeting tonight thinking of Duff and looking at
the Harley sticker that I have on the cap of my truck...Duff and I picked it
out together at the East Hampton Harley shop the day we spent looking for the
cap on my truck.  I'll treasure that possession with all my heart.  Thank God
for memories. While thinking of Duff, I smiled and looked up in the sky and
into my sight came the MOST beautiful rainbow I've ever seen in my
life.....all I could say was thanks Duff!!  It's comforting to know we've all
got an angel up there watchin' out for us...I know in my heart that Duff had
something to do with that rainbow being there for me to see....he was that
kind of man.  I'll miss you my friend and spiritual mentor
Till we meet again..............

Love & Light,
Toni

THE SASSY GORILLA IS GONE AND THE WHOLE FOREST SHUDDERS AND WEEPS.  EVEN
KNOWING THE OUTCOME DOES NOT MAKE THE VOID LESS HOLLOW, THE LOSS LESS A
HEARTACHE FOR ALL THE FOREST ANIMALS.

HOW DO YOU DESCRIBE THE MAGIC THAT WAS DUFFY?

THE FIRST TIME I SAW HIM WAS ON CHANNEL 4 OR 5 AND THEY WERE DOING A SPECIAL
ON BOSTON'S NEIGHBORHOODS.  IT WAS CHARLESTOWN'S NIGHT AND THERE WAS THE
DUFFER DEMONSTRATING  THE FINER POINTS OF HALF BALL UP AT THE MONUMENT.  I
DON'T KNOW WHAT HE SAID TO THE CAMERAS BUT I'M SURE IT WAS SOMETHING SASSY
AND INDECENT.

THE NEXT TIME I SAW HIM  WAS AT AN A..A. MEETING.  HE WAS BRASH, LOUD,
CONFIDENT - SOMEONE TO BE RECKONED WITH.   I GAVE HIM A WIDE BERTH AND
AVOIDED THAT ELECTRIFYING FIELD OF ENERGY THAT SURROUNDED HIM LIKE A
HURRICANE ABOUT TO TOUCH DOWN.

I REALLY DIDN'T GET TO KNOW THE OTHER SIDE OF DUFFY UNTIL 1989.  IN A LETTER
HE WROTE ON JULY 15, 1989, WHEN MY FATHER WAS DYING HE SAID, "HEY ABOUT YOUR
DAD - THE GRIM REAPER  IS REALLY JUST A FAIRY TALE -  WE ALL GRADUATE TO A
DIFFERENT PLACE - LIKE CHANGING SCHOOLS - BUT LOTS OR PEOPLE DON'T KNOW IT
TILL AFTER THEY'VE BEEN ENROLLED INTO THE OTHER ONE.  I'LL KEEP HIM IN MY
THOUGHT & PRAYERS JUST SO HE STAYS CALM WHILE TRANSITING INTO THE OTHER. 
THAT'S WHAT I BELIEVE.".

SOME OF DUFFY'S MAGIC WAS:

    AN ABILITY TO TAKE THE COMMONPLACE AND MAKE IT HILARIOUS
    AN ABILITY TO TAKE THE PROBLEM AND MAKE IT OPPORTUNITY
    AN ABILITY TO TAKE THE MUNDANE AND MAKE IT EXCITING
    AN ABILITY TO TAKE THE DOUBT PROBLEM AND MAKE IT    ENLIGHTENMENT
  
HE WAS A UNIQUE AND GIFTED INDIVIDUAL WHO GAVE OF HIMSELF FREELY FROM
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE TO A THERAPEUTIC MESSAGE; FROM ONE OF YOUR ALL TIME BEST
BELLY LAUGHS TO THE SHIRT OFF HIS BACK AND YOURS; THAT UNCANNY AND REMARKABLE
ABILITY TO MAKE YOU FEEL THAT YOU WERE HIS MOST CHERISHED FRIEND AND THE
TRUTH IS, YOU WERE!

HE TOLD ME THE STORY OF HOW HE HAD COME BACK TO TOWN IN APRIL AND A BUNCH OF
PEOPLE HAD WASHABLE MAGIC MARKERS AND WERE DRAWING ON HIS HEAD.  HE THEN LEFT
FOR EASTHAMPTON AND STOPPED AT DUNKIN DONUTS ON THE WAY AND COULDN'T
UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE WERE GAWKING AT HIM.  WHEN HE GOT HOME HE LOOKED IN THE
MIRROR TO FIND HIS HEAD COVERED WITH GRAFFITI.  HE HAD JUST DRIVEN THE MASS
PIKE LOOKING LIKE A WHITE RAPPER SERIAL KILLER.  HE WAS GOD'S FAVORITE CHILD.

I VISITED HIM OUT IN EASTHAMPTON IN JUNE.  AS USUAL, THE PLACE WAS UTTERLY
CLUTTERED TO THE HEAVENS AND HE WAS PARADING AROUND IN SOMETHING OUTLANDISH
FOR UNDERWEAR.  WE WENT TO NORTHAMPTON TO GEEK AT THE STUDENTS.  DESPITE
BEING SORE AND SICK FROM THE RADIATION AND THE CHEMO, HE DROVE US AROUND
ABOUT 5 DIFFERENT TOWNS LOOKING FOR A DIARY QUEEN BECAUSE I WAS HAVING AN OBSESSIVE SUGAR CRAVING FOR ONE OF THEIR PECAN MUDSLIDES..  WE NEVER FOUND ONE BUT WE WENT INTO SPRINGFIELD LATER FOR SUPPER.  HE DID THE USUAL:  LOOKED UP MY SKIRT IN FRONT OF PEOPLE , TOLD THE WAITER, "HEY SHE WANTS ME,. SHE WANTS ME RIGHT NOW- HERE UNDER THE TABLE...ON TOP OF THE TABLE.. SHE'S DONE THIS SORT OF THING BEFORE AND MAKE AS MANY LEWD AND LASCIVIOUS SUGGESTIONS  AS HE COULD CRAM INTO ONE LOUD SENTENCE SO THAT ANYONE SITTING WITHIN ABOUT
25 FEET WERE STARING AT US WITH MILD CURIOSITY TO UTTER DISGUST.  HE HAD ME
LAUGHING LIKE ONLY DUFFY COULD.


THE LAST TIME I SAW  HIM WAS AT AN A.A. MEETING,.  HE WAS BRASH, LOUD, COCKY
AND CONFIDENT.  I THOUGHT HE HAD BEATEN IT. WE ARE ALL GRATEFUL THAT HE
DIDN'T HAVE PROLONGED SUFFERING AND THANKS TO EVERYONE WRITING ALL THESE
REMINISCENCES.  IT HELPS.

To those of you who don't know me.....Duff and I are childhood buddies.....I
grew up with him, shared my very first taste of alcohol -Colt 45- with
him...we laughed and struggled (mostly laughed) our way thru early and late
adolescence in C-Town...Loved him before his life change and loved him more
as our relationship grew...He was my power of example to get sober...as he 
probably was to many of you.....He is the ultimate miracle....I know he knows
how grateful we all are that we were fortunate enough to share part of our
journey with him...  If I may emote and share this with you...

"When you needed a laugh, the Duff was there....

When you needed to vent, he would hear

He wouldn't judge, but would advise...

Thru years of pain, he emerged quite wise...

The boy "inside", was mostly out...

The man he was...his flock would shout...

"Was someone who loved with all his heart....

And never forget his humble start....

He gave like no one I ever knew...and only asked

for a wife.....or two..(or...)....

Outrageous fun was quite the norm...

And how he loved the human form...:).

His id hung out for all to see.....

it gave him some security......

All our stories are memories fond...

of the "impish" Duff who's now beyond...

Consoling angels, firefighters, and you

far above, just a different view...

If he were here, I'd get a kiss....:)

There are some things I just won't miss...

But I'll remember the warmth, the love, the giving..

I'll smile at the thought of his lousy singing,

allow me to digress please....:)

Duff's  Monument Ave basement was a stepping stone for us to get to American
Bandstand.  We would be rock stars eventually...:)

We had such greats as Frankie Valle and the Four Seasons- "Cheri","Silence is
Golden"...Dell Shannon - "Runaway" & "Hats Off to Larry"- a Duff favorite
that he butchered continuously...In many ways his spiritualism was formulated
back then :).He really couldn't sing but could 'high voice" and fake it with
the best of 'em....hmmmmm, So that's where young Danny gets his talent! :)

Oh, we never made it to American Bandstand....but we had a great time trying.

Duff is 'a true one and only', one of those sent to enrich and help...
and we can have those in our memories forever or until we meet up
again.....My thinking now is that he is now...the "ultimate poltergeist'..in
a good sense...you know...along with the serious side....he can't resist
pulling pranks and making people feel good.  :):)

You just know there are some angels in heaven whose lives have been enriched
by their "newcomer"; 

Angels who are laughing their asses off, wondering where this guy came
from....and why didn't we get him earlier....hey, we needed him first.....

Duff,  Thanks for Being!  :)    

You are all in my prayers,

Jimmy K.

The best moments I shared with Duff were our one on one visits. Most of you
don't really know me so a little bout me I stand 6' 260lbs long hair beard
typical biker lots of tats. So here comes MR.Duffy pounding on my window one
night he's locked out thinking a guy in a wheel chair is gonna open the door
and here I come to the door freshly woken from a deep sleep IM like what the
hell do you want!!!I wish I had the video camera on as the look on his face
was like OH SHIT !!! That was our 1st meeting. He didn't know I had moved in
downstairs from Penny. They had just driven up from the Keys and I had locked
the downstairs door not the best way to start off the great friendship that
was soon to develop but it did and I jumped on Duffy's bus with all the other
BOZOS. That summer we really got to know each other. We started walking
together that summer as we were gonna loose weight and get healthy and we
started too but then we found ourselves at the ice-cream place after every
walk and I don't think we ever really lost any weight but we had some great
walks and talks. I did meet a few of you at his wedding that summer. I don't
think Duff figured me out that summer till he told me he watched me picking
leaves up off the ground that fall as I looked for just the right ones to
send to my friends in FLA. He did ask me the next day why I did it. He always
told that story bout me and it always made me feel good when we spoke
together which I was always honored to share with him next to me at AA
meetings. I could go on with many great stories and I will share more later.
Like the night I kidnapped him on my Harley and he said he was my Bitch for
the night !!!! Our last chat on the phone I shared with Duff that I Lost my
15 years of clean time I couldn't tell anyone except him as I knew he would
have the right words for me. He was gonna spend this weekend at my home as he
had to be in Connecticut for something and I was so looking forward to seeing
him. I WILL MISS MY FRIEND.

No Kiddin,

Cocapepsi was disgusting. I can remember, on the men's retreat, he used
to go out on the porch BALLIKY BARE and pretend he was tarzan or something.

He didnt even have to be home for him to cheer you up because he changed
that message machine nearly everyday with some stupid song.

I have a video tape of him feeding the Key deer in Florida (which is strictly
prohibited.)

Johnny

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